We are on some very special dates as well as conditioned by COVID-19 and all the restrictions that it brings associated. Therefore, if you can meet friends this Christmas it is important to be able to enjoy the moment.
Gatherings of friends
How many times have we met with friends or former colleagues with the illusion of having a good time and yet we have returned home with a bad taste in our mouths. We are then left to analyze in detail the comments, gestures or details of a member of the group that has not made us feel good.
There are many occasions when we leave home expecting to find something that we finally cannot find and this prevents us from enjoying the moment, it may be because we have too high expectations and we do not know how to adapt to the unexpected situation, such as finding ourselves in the group with someone who is not to our liking or simply because of a change of plans.
Obviously, all this can happen on a specific occasion and for a specific issue, but if it is something habitual or occurs too frequently, we must ask ourselves what is happening to us that is preventing us from enjoying the good times.
Some recommendations
- Be active when proposing the place and time of the meeting , do not agree to go to places that you do not like without defending your opinion. This is not to say that you can ever give in, but you cannot be left with the feeling that it is you who always does.
- Before going out, prepare the clothing that you want to wear and with which you feel comfortable. Don’t make comparisons with others or aim to compete for style and elegance. The important thing is to like yourself.
- During the course of the meeting, do not envy anyone’s way of acting . Everyone should feel good and comfortable as they are. If you are somewhat shy, do not spend the whole night thinking about what you should say or do.
- Strengthen your social relationships , do not avoid them and always try to improve yourself to like yourself and others more.
- Avoid being too attentive to what others think of you every time you speak or do something.
- Do not try to please above all else , if you have something to say or say do not avoid doing it, if your opinion is not taken into account as that of one of the group or is not accepted then we are not talking about friendship and it will not be a group that you should keep.
- Do not analyze or make personal the comments that may be said in a group at some point , as it can lead to misperceptions. If at any time someone has not been correct, try to find the time to talk with that person in private to resolve the conflict.
- Try to do your part so that the moment is relaxed and fun , where everyone has their space to tell what they need, express the funny anecdote …
On a daily basis, all people have problems, tensions, concerns, some shared with others and others not, so it is essential to know how to enjoy those moments with friends , this makes us overcome and move on.
